A MAN WOMEN LOVE

Thank you, babe!  That’s very sweet.  I’m going to post a link to a blog I wrote on this topic.  But I’ll also add that you yourself know he is a douche.  Why would you want to be with someone like that?   You know he’s bad for you.  The only connection is that he’s your first.   But the first isn’t always special.   You got a crappy first.  But you will find a better second.  And eventually, you will find JUST the right guy, and he will rock your world.

I promise.

Daniel

Here’s the link:  http://amanwomenlove.tumblr.com/post/23974011498/how-do-i-get-over-a-breakup

It’s hard to tell.   Because people often confuse goofiness for immaturity.   Not the same.  I can be a goof-ball, but I think I’m mature for my age.   

Here are some things I’d say you might look for… questions you should ask.

• Does the guy have a serious job?   I think three things go into a job being “serious.”  ONE - How much responsibility is placed upon a person.   Being a security guard requires more responsibility than flipping burgers.   Thus, it’s more serious.  TWO - How complex a skill set is required.   Anyone can be a security guard.  But if he’s a mechanic, that is skills he learned over time.  THREE - How many hours he works.  If it’s less than 40 (unless he’s in school) it’s not a very serious job. So look at the guy’s job.  Does he deliver pizza 25 hours a week?  That’s something a 16-year-old might do.   I know the economy is bad.   But I do not know a single person who wanted to work 40 hours a week who can’t find that work.  They might work multiple jobs, but they do it.   Mature people pull their own weight.  They don’t mooch off mom or friends.   Thus, a serious job is required.
• How well does he put others ahead of himself?   Little children are totally narcissistic.   A three-year-old grabs a toy from a four-year-old.  The four-year-old doesn’t say, “Now, let’s be reasonable.  You have it for half hour, then I’ll have it for a half hour.”  No.  Battle royal breaks out!  Because both kids only care about themselves, most likely.   Immaturity.  It’s the same with adults.   Does the guy ask you where you want to eat, or does he prefer to go to where he wants to eat?  Does he remember important dates of yours?  He knows his own birthday.  Does he know his mom’s, dad’s and yours?   If not, he’s being childish.   So, does he care more about his feelings or about the feelings of others.  Unless you can say “others,” he’s got a touch of immaturity.
• Does he  care for himself?  Good hygene.  Reasonably clean apartment.   This is just what adults do.  
• Has he faced adversity?  I think this is a BIG part of growing up.    I had two big “challenges”: blowing out my knee which meant losing a scholarship, and losing my mom to cancer.   Those things turned me from a boy into a man mighty quick.

I’d look at those.   If he scores positively in 4 out of 4, you are dating a man, not a boy.  3 out of 4, and you are probably fine.  2 out of 4, you could still be ok.  Zero or 1, you need to pass on that guy for a few years.  He needs to cook a bit longer before he’s good.   

Hope this helps!

Daniel

Haha!  But you know what, babe… This isn’t a men and women thing. Most women I know feel the same way.   

I know others who are like you, especially women, who think that oral sex is something extra special you do during regular sex.   But not many.  Most people view it the way I describe it - a sexual act that isn’t as intimate as regular intercourse.     

So this isn’t just guys’ view.  It’s most peoples’ view.   

Daniel

PS - Speaking of planets, here is Uranus.  ;)  (Yes, I’m that immature!  Haha.)

I’ll post a link to a LONG blog I wrote on this subject.  But basically, when talking on the phone, there are three things you can talk about:

1. What you would like him to do.  So you are describing how you’d like him to kiss you… how you’d like him to go down on you.
2. What you would like to do to him.  Take what’s above and flip it around.  Give him a step-by-step account of how you’d like to suck his cock, for example.
3. What you are doing to yourself.  When you are talking to him, be someplace private.  Let your hands roam your body.  Tell him how you are touching your nipples and what they feel like.  Rub your clit and tell him how that feels.  Stick a finger in.  Tell him how tight it is.  Taste your finger and describe what it tastes like.  He’ll go wild!  

Do those three things while using plenty of naughty words, especially fuck.   That’s all there is to it, babe.   Piece of cake.  ;)

Here’s the link:  http://amanwomenlove.tumblr.com/post/21460307566/talk-dirty-to-me

Good luck!  Your boyfriend is a lucky guy to have a girl who wants to give him hot phone sex.  ;)

Daniel

Do it!  That’s a 5D!

Daniel Davis Double Dog Dare!  

Gotta do those!

;)